Wedding Ceremonies Involving Parents

Address to Parents

As our sons and daughters find partners and find homes for the next generation, each family is enriched and enlarged. Would the parents of the bride and groom please stand.

This occasion is a special celebration for you, the parents who have brought these children into the world, and nurtured them into adulthood. Today you are witnessing another stage in the lives of your son and daughter. Your continuing support and encouragement will be needed as __________ and __________ unite in marriage. Will you who have loved and nurtured these two, try with the greatest love and wisdom you have, to support this new couple and help in every way? (answer: yes)

Parents Rose Ceremony

Marriage is a coming together of two lives, and a celebration of the love of two people. But it is more. The love that you feel for one another is the flowering of a seed your mothers planted in your hearts many years ago. When you were first born, you were a bundle of diapers and tears, and your mothers lost sleep caring for you. Their love for you has brought them great happiness and great challenges, and their love did not diminish as they met these challenges. That is the great lesson you can bring into your marriage. As you embrace one another in your love, so too do you embrace the families which have been brought together on this happy occasion. As a token of your gratitude for your families, I would like to ask you to offer these symbols of eternal love, these roses, to your mothers. (Both bride and groom can hand the roses to each mother together, offering the mothers kisses if they wish.)

Mother of the bride - A reading for her daughter

(Saying Brides name), I like to think that you learned from me that some thinks are important. Commitment, love, loyalty, "being there" are at the center of everything. I tried my best to teach you, by example, that life is very complex, that there are no final solutions, there is only commitment to the search for quality and genuineness.

I taught you to value human relationships, to run away from bigotry and to expose it when you find it. I taught you to believe in the value of books, to respect education and learning, to admire goodness, integrity and wisdom. Let's not forget humor. Above all, perhaps, I taught you by example that a thoughtful and examined life requires difficult choices; that there are, for such a life, no instant fixes.

We live in a society which sells trivial answers for every complex human dilemma. In our household, from our example, you were able to draw on a different set of strengths, not available in the ambient society of your growing up. I see all of these strengths in your life now. You have become the kind of woman I dreamed of raising.

Parents Blessing (instead of who gives this woman etc )

This occasion is a special celebration for you parents who have brought these children into the world, and nurtured them into adulthood. Today you are witnessing another stage in the lives of your son and daughter. Your continuing support and encouragement will be needed as Mary and Rob unite in marriage. Mr and Mrs Smith and Mr and Mrs Jones, will you try with the greatest love and wisdom you can command, support this new couple and help in every way?

The Parent's Blessing (alternate to who gives this woman etc)

Will [Mother of the Bride] and [Father of the Bride] and [Mother of the Groom] and [Father of the Groom] please stand?

As our sons and daughters find partners and find homes for the next generation, each family is enriched and enlarged. Do you, who have nurtured these two, bestow your blessing on their union and their family? (answer: yes)